Monday, July 31, 2006 

Sex Addiction?

This topic is brought to you today by the Letter G as in GREEDY!

This all came about because of a conversation with my husband about Cheating. WE went back and forth about the reasons people cheat and for the most part we can agree on the following




 1. Not getting the emotional needs met at home

2. Not getting the physical needs at home

3. A combination of the two

4. Or cause you know you wont get caught




 Now that was all fine and dandy but then he tried the whole “sex addiction” excuse…ala Eric Benet… oh hell no! I don’t care what people say I don’t by the whole sex addict thing. I think your just GREEDY!!!! If in fact sex is your drug and you have a beautiful woman like Halle Berry at home why aren’t you trying to jump her bones every chance you get… NOOO! You had to go outside to fill that addiction. PLEASE! Sell that shit some where else cause I ain’t buying it.



 I’m sure that there are people out there that will claim to have a sex addiction and sadly some may really believe this but I feel for the most part people are trying to use this as yet another excuse to cheat and trying to gain sympathy by attaching a “medical condition” to it. I may be wrong ,but hey it’s my blog. LOL





 So what to you think of the whole “ sex addiction” thing?

10:55 AM | |

Wednesday, July 26, 2006 

Sex Education

Sadly I had this conversation at work. Expierence Vs. Stamina. What's your preference?

In all things sex I think everyone has a preference. Whether it be bigger, thicker, longer or whatever you want what you want, but can a someone who is significantly younger than you be as good in bed as someone who maybe has a few more years to them. Do you want some one older who maybe doesn’t have the stamina he/she once had or do you want someone that can go all night but the sex is blaze.. Quantity or quality.


I personally want a “master” if you will. I want someone that knows exactly how to please even if that means it may take him a little longer to “regroup” as appose to someone with the stamina of a teenager but I would have to “tutor” In the various parts. Some women don’t mind teaching but for me I don’t want to go through all that. Maybe when I get older I be more incline to teach but for right now Im good being with some one that knows the ropes. Now don’t get me wrong Im sure that there are some “youngster”( if you will) that know what there doing, but for me I just naturally connect age with experience. Now this may be wrong but its my blogg and I'll say what I want. LOL

Have you ever had sex with someone significantly younger? What are the pros and cons?

12:04 PM | |

Monday, July 24, 2006 

I Love you !

This post was inspired by
  • Organized Noise
    • who was inspired by
  • Missy



    • I tell my kids and my husband I love them everyday and I know my family knows how much I love them, but today I want to tell my sisters (by Choice) just mow much I love them.

    My Baby sis J

    I met you in college the first day and we were always cool but the year you started working here is when we really connected. As you know things were all kinds of crazy with my life. I told you things I have never told any one, including my husband and you didn’t judge, you just listened. I’ll never forget that. You where there when things were great and cause for celebration but you were also there when I had lost all hope and desire to continue. You were there to give comfort even when I couldn’t be comforted. I love you do death baby sis.


    My Big sis Nico

    I met you at work and from the first day we hit it off. It wasn’t to long after we were sharing in-law horror stories. You were the friend I didn’t expect. I didn’t know that I would come to trust and love you like my sister. You have been the “voice of reason” when I didn’t really want to hear it and the accomplice when I needed you to have my back. Always available and never judge-mental you are the person I go to for Life experience. You are the shoulder to cry on and the ear to listen and for that you will always have my loyalty.



    I share a bond with you two that I will never share with anyone. You two are my sisters; know that I will always be here for you and that I love you guys with all my heart!!

    2:06 PM | |

    Thursday, July 20, 2006 

    My weapon of choice.... SEX

    There are not many things I can do to really piss my man off… He is very mellow and not easily bothered by most things but when I really want to pissed him off and get my way I withhold sex. Now as much as I like sex I have been called a Nun in training for my ability to go long periods of time with out it. Its not something I do all the time but when I really want him to see just how angry I am I do things that get him excited ( like sleeping with no panties) then I tell him I’m not in the mood. Is it wrong?Maybe, but after 13 years together he still caves every time.

    So what’s you weapon of choice to get your way?

    11:26 AM | |

    Tuesday, July 18, 2006 

    The Return of The EX.

    It almost always happens. You break-up with someone and you both go your separate ways and then as if by fate you bump into each other and for some reason start talking about old times. For the most part you’ve moved on and he’s moved on but there is always that ex that you never quite got over. This is the return of the ex. I was so in love with him. Our relationship ended without warning. There was never a “its over” or “Lets just be friends” It kinda just went away. I can honestly say that I never really fought for the relationship; it was just so complicated( one day I'll post about it) that I really couldn’t deal with but it was also full of love and laughter…. He had a smile that could always make me happy no matter what was going on in my life. I don’t regret much in my life cause I believe everything is a learning experience but I regret not taking that phone call, not fighting to make our relationship work.


    I saw him not to long ago and he still has that smile that makes my heart melt but were different people now. If you look closely you can still see remnants of the loving couple we were. I loved him so much then and today I love him still. Why? I don’t know I just do. My life is just starting to be what I want it to be and to some degree I own it all to that encounter. That encounter made me wonder about the choices I made in my life and I even second-guessed myself many times but what I have now is everything I want. I’ll always love him, of that I’m sure and I will never forget all that we shared but where I am today is where I want to be.


    Have you ever second guess the life you have now with the life you could have had?

    Have you ever still felt a connection with an ex? If so how did you deal with it?

    10:12 AM | |

    Friday, July 14, 2006 

    Indecent proposal

    I happen to catch this on cable the other night and it got me to thinking about how much I have change my view on this issue. This movie came out around the time my husband and I got together and I remember having this long discussion with my friends when ask would I have sex with someone for a million dollars even if I was married. Then, I said no…. well actually I said HELL NO! I love my man and that would cause so many problems and its just not worth it.


    Today I see things very differently. Would I do it today provided all safety measure were taken yes here’s why. I’ve learn through my relationship with my husband that love is love and sex is sex. Can you have sex completely devolve of any emotional ties … yes. My heart belongs to him. This act would be just about my body and over in less than an hour.


    I know that it would always hang over our heads and may even be the source of some friction but I doubt it! The beauty of my relationship with my husband is that we are always honest and open about everything in our relationship…… and if he leaves I’ll at least have a million dollars !LMAO.



    Have a Great Weekend!!!!!

    9:57 AM | |

    Wednesday, July 12, 2006 

    Some people collect baseball cards others collect stamps I collect shoes.

    Some people may say that I have one to many shoes But do people say that about collecting stamps? I don’t think so. I love shoes (read Heels) and more important l love sandals. The higher the heel the sexier the shoe in my opinion. I like strappy sandals and I love colors.



    Yes, I am that chick that wears heels on a regular. I am the one at the Bar-b-q with the 3 in heels. I can’t help it. I feel my sexiest in heels and I am a slave to fashion, I will wear shoes that are uncomfortable as long as they look good. I realize that I have a bit of an addiction but it makes me happy! My Friends know this so for my birthday what did they get me? A pair of 3 1/4 in hot pick shoes (see Below) it was the best birthday I ever had just based on the shoes! LOL




    I know I cant always afford the shoes I like and I accept that but it’s my only vice! My name is Msnhim and I’m a shoe addict!

    11:43 AM | |

    Monday, July 10, 2006 

    G String- THE REPOST

    I was searching my archives hoping I'd be inspired to post when I came across this post.... I thought I'd share it with you

    {Originally Posted August of 2005}

    Ok ,so I have worn a G-String/thong on the occasion when I am "dressing" the part for my man but I have never worn one longer than 10-20- minutes tops.

    I went to a wedding this weekend and I had this oh so sexy dress but one problem, its so form fitting that my regular granny panties (don't laugh cause I love them) don't look right under the dress, major panty lines, so I figure I'll just go panty free right?


    That made sense but then I starting thinking about my Mom and how she always said to make sure you have on good underwear in case your ever in an accident and have to be taken to the hospital. I mean if that happens they would think I was some type of loose chick cause I am walking around with no underwear so I decide I will just ware a g-sting to be on the safe side.

    Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! What the hell was I thinking and why didn't someone tell me that shit is so uncomfortable. I know a lot of women who swear by them, that will only wear that type of underwear. Is it something you have to get use to??????

    So here I am at the wedding (looking all kinds of sexy by the way) and all I can think about is that I have a string up my butt. I could not even enjoy myself cause it was so irritating. I contemplated going to the ladies room and taking It off but I kept hearing my mothers voice " always make sure you have good underwear on..." I can't take it. I sat there for five hours just trying to take my mind of the dam thing.

    When I got home I wasn't even in the door yet and I was taking that shit off. I don't know how you ladies do it but I think I will stick with my granny panties.

    {LMAO....... Comfortably rocking My granny panties.} :-)


    Happy Monday!!!!!

    5:07 PM | |

    Wednesday, July 05, 2006 

    A little Sex Meme

    Stole this from Organized Noise

    1. HAVE YOU GOTTEN LAID IN 2006?

    Yes, yes and Yes

    2. EVER HAD SEX IN A PUBLIC PLACE?

    No, but I've come pretty close

    3. EVER LAUGH DURING SEX? IF SO WHY?

    Yes, cause My husband is a bit of a clown

    4. EVER CRY DURING SEX? IF SO WHY?

    No, But I have After

    5. DO YOU LIKE TO CUDDLE AFTER SEX?

    Before, during and after.

    6. EVER REGRET SEX WITH SOMEONE?

    Yes. Then again who hasn’t?

    7. EVER FAKED AN ORGASM?

    Yes. Who hasn't

    8. DIRTY TALK, OR SHUT THE FUCK UP?

    Talk dirty to me, but dont get crazy

    9. EVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX:

    Yes,I have three kids ... DUH!

    10. EVER MASTURBATE TO YOUR FRIENDS SIGNIFICANT OTHER?

    Hell no

    11. EVER HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND?

    Not really

    12. HOW BOUT A 3-SOME?

    Nope.

    13. EVER WATCH PORN DURING SEX?

    Sometimes

    14. EVER THOUGHT OF SOMEONE ELSE DURING SEX?

    Yeah.

    15. HAS THE CONDOM EVER BROKE?

    Yeah a few times

    16. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRISING SEXUAL EXPERIENCE?

    With an ex. We were having sex in the basement and I was up against a wall with shelve's .. well things got a little heated and things from the shelve's started falling on our heads.... we didnt stop but it was funny.


    17. How old were you when you lost your virginity?

    16

    18. WHO WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH RIGHT NOW?

    I will take the fifth on this. LOL

    19. DO YOU THINK THAT number 18 IS POSSIBLE?

    Hey you never know. Sike!!!

    20. ARE YOU HORNY NOW?

    LMAO

    21. WOULD U HAVE SEX WITH THE PERSON THAT POSTED THIS?

    I like O to much to break his heart! LMAO


    1:32 PM | |

    Monday, July 03, 2006 

    Just based on the Physical....

    I was reading a post by Organized Noise's and he mention how when he passes women he puts then in two categories


    1. Yeah I do Her!

    Or

    2. Hell no!

    So I began to think, do most men do this? I mean think about it, if you pass 20 guys in a day you have now been evaluated 20 times….. So would I be upset that I was check- out by 20men? Not really unless I learned I was in the Hell No category, that shit would piss me off! ( LOL)

    I can’t blame men for this cause to be honest; I do this with men all the time. If I’m in the elevator with them or we pass each other at the store best believe that I am checking him out and put him in one of two categories

    1. Yeah he could get it!

    Or

    2. Hell No! Not Even with some one else’s P***Y
    (Sorry to be a bit vulgar)



    But the question today is what Physical attribute tips the scales of choice to what category you put the opposite sex in ?

    For me a nice smile and a set of really nice of arms (Extra points if you have a tattoo) can get you into the first category.


    What does it for you ?

    10:01 AM | |