I just want to know why...

I don't hold grudges. I don't allow anyone to have that much of my time and energy. But, when I cut people off...that's IT! I am still cordial, but no more.

Im currently in a feud with my sister going on 2 yrs..dont know what is was over dont really care..my life is less complicated..for friends, i'd say I dont hold grudges, if i see them Ill speak.......but nothing like how it used to be

I am like Luvin Me. Although i have tried to hold Grudges, i am not good at it, i get to exhausted with being angry at someone. You would have had to do some really FOWEL shit for me to be rude to you if i was to run into you somewhere most likely you'll get a "hey" and thats it. But if it is a repeat offender "fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me" I will just realease them from my life along with all the anger.

But i have been in similiar situations like yours b4 many times (actually haven't all woman?)

I can't hold grudges that long. I hate when I have a friend and I feel like we've had a falling out..I'll give them and me some time for us to calm down then I am wanting to talk it out and rectify the situation...now if you've done something drastic to piss me off then yea I can hold it forever LOL...

It really depends on the situation...

I think that maybe you should re-think all that has happend and give her a call....maybe!?! I know that Taurus temper so please don't yell at me! *smile*

~Smooches~

You are a Taurus woman...as am I - so I speak from knowing YOUR truth.

As a friend, you are loyal to a fault. You are supportive, nuturing...the one friends call on when they're in shit KNEE DEEP. You always have the answers...and even when you don't, you still know the right things to say. When someone you care about crosses you, you feel utterly and completely betrayed - regardless what the reason is.

I'm only a few years older than you, and I've also taken time to understand my WAYS and have learned how to make my TAURUS ways work FOR me instead of AGAINST me. That...and I don't really giveafuck like that anymore. Yes, I've been betrayed and because of it, I'm cautious. But I know in the end that I can't let that shit rule my life and ruin my friendships. Perhaps in time you'll see that she had to make her own way...and choosing HIM over your friendship has nothing to do with YOU...sometimes people just need to do shit the way they feel is best. As her friend, she's only expecting you to be there to help pick up the pieces and put her back together again. But the choice is yours.

This so funny because I was thinking about this conversation.

It depends on the situation but like some of the commenters I will be cordial.

It must hurt when you feel betrayed. But if you are still hurt and feel betrayed, that means you still love and miss her.

It's always easier said than done, because I haven't spoken to my sister in four years, but that's because no one knows where she IS. (She's not dead, we know that).

Anyway, trust me, she already knows the mistakes she has made. The mistakes, in some form or other, we have all made.

She may need you and want to come back to you, but is not sure of the approach. Are you willing to give it a try and re-build?

First of all I realize that life is too short to hold a grudge. I have a friend who I feel we fell out but when she calls, I bitch and moan, but I am still there for her. Sometimes people should look into themselves to find out why they are really holding a grudge? Sometimes things could be a misunderstanding, but to answer your question: I don't hold grudges for long. I am sure your friend is sad that you are out of her life, but she probably doesn't know how to win you back. I wonder in the back of our mind would you ever consider taking her back? Remember life is too short, how would you feel if something horrible happened to her tomorrow.

Not only is life too short to hold a grude, it takes too much energy. You put in extra effort not to talk to someone because you're mad, meanwhile they are living their lives with no extra stress.

I can hold a grudge. For a very long time as a matter of fact. Not to say that I stay angry b/c I don't. I just don't fool with the person anymore and that's it. Of course it depends on what the person did as to how long it will last. If I know the same thing is going to happen again then I will hold onto what I think is right forever!

Good Post :)

Hello Msnhim,

Holding a grudge is something real but difficult at the same time. because u do forget the real reason y u may be angry after a while. But grudges are something else. we as human are not free from sin but a grudge over pettiness is terrible to me. Life or death is something else.

If u found out ur friend died a horrific death or death period would the grudge be that serious.

If so then U are cold as ice and should run for president of america, if not let go and live life b cause life is to short for grudges.

If she didn't need you this long then leave well enough alone!!
I don't hold grudges BUT.. you can only fuck me over ONCE.
I agree life is too short to hold grudges and it's too damn short for the Bullshit!!!
Don't open a can of worm you can't close back leave that lid on girl!!
-M

I think as an Aries, I have the stubborn streak very badly, because I'm an Aries, borderlining on Taurus. That can truly be a task for folks as well as myself.

I held a grudge before. When I was a teenager. What I realized, though was as long as I held that within me, it wasn't doing me any good. I was the only one feeling betrayed, who held onto all that, while this person went on with his life. It's really not worth it in my opinion.

I used to stay mad at someone for a long time. I went as far as almost a year, but I eventually got over that, too. Again, the other person could care less..see a pattern here? Truth be told, I wasn't mad at her that entire year. I was ready to see her again and be friends again by the time she approached me about our relationship.
I now just take people and things for what they are. It's better that way for me, because I'm able to just let things go in stride. I may be upset for a while, but I eventually get over it, so I don't stay mad that long anymore, and I don't do grudges.

I had to comment on this. I am the queen of all grudges. This girl in jamaica got me a beating because she wanted to avoid her own beat down and lied about something. I havent spoken to her since. I will do anything for my friend. I am there for you but the second I feel like you cross the line thats it. I'm done with you and I dont look back.

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