Tuesday, January 31, 2006 

Spoiled ??????

I have been call spoiled on occasion. Let me explain…

Growing up in a family of 8 there isn’t very much room for one to be spoiled but I have always been my father’s favorite and there is nothing that he wouldn’t do for me. Flash-forward to my teenage years I never really asked my parents for much but when I did they made sure I got it.

When I met my husband he was always generous with his time and his money… I never asked for anything he just wanted to give… to this day what ever I want he pretty much gives me.

Since my life has been a lot of "getting what I want" or “ having things my way” I have grown accustom to that. Things not going the way I want them to can be very frustrating… Does that make me spoiled?

Some would say yes… I say STOP HATING. LOL. I do all I can for the people in my life and I think they try to do the same….

What do you think?

Are you spoiled?

Monday, January 30, 2006 


With Valentine's day on the way it seems love is in the air... or is it?

"If you can't have the one you love, love the one you have"

What do you think..... can you be in a relationship when your not "in-love"? Is it a lie? Could you do it?

Thursday, January 26, 2006 

Let talk about sex.. again

It seems that I have "sex" on the brain. Its one of my favorite topics of discussion so here we go ...

Do you feel comfortable talking about sex? I don’t know about most but I have no problem talking about sex to my partner or anyone else for that matter. There are people who are just not satisfied sexually but feel funny saying that. I may need to learn a little tac when it comes to bedroom batter but I think I get my point across. Every body has a freeky side, whether you admit it or not we all do but today’s questions are

1. Do you feel comfortable asking for what you want in bed freeky or otherwise?

2. Why or Why not?

Keep it real people.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006 


I need your help. The beginning of the year saw the departure of one of my favorite bloggers.. Nicky

She is crazy cool and I enjoyed her blogg so much that I have started to go through
" Blogger withdrawl"


1. visiting her site daily when I know shes not there

2. Hopeing to see if she replys to anyones post , so at least I know shes alive

3. Sleepless night and sweates wondering " WHAT HAPPENED"

Ok maybe that last one is over the top but you see where I am going with this..... I need this blogg back so here is my plea...... BRING BACK YOUR BLOG!!!!

People if you feel the same can I get an Amen!!!!!!!!

Monday, January 23, 2006 


Here are the Answers to your questions

MeCrazyMe Asked

1. Do you have a crush on any blogger you have met?

I really like all the bloggers that I have met but as far as a crush not yet

2. What is your best quality?

I would have to say my Loyalty. Once I consider you my friend I am going to have your back all the way.

3. Do you like to give advice or receive advice?

I like both. If I have been in the situation and I feel that maybe I call help I’ll try. As much as I don’t always want to hear it I welcome advice.

4. Was I missed at the blogger meetup being that I couldn't go?


5. If someone came to your door with three small children saying that a old high school friend had you down as next of kin to raise her children (she passed way) what would you do?

I would raise the kids. I have a soft spot for children and if the person felt that I was the right person to keep them I’d be honored.

6. What is your favorite number?

24 that’s the date I was born

7. What is the best compliment someone has ever gave you?

That Im a great mom…. Its doesn’t get better than that for me

8. Why am I not at this damn meet up?

I don’t know, you tell me.

Anonymous ASk
1. Would u ever have a sexual relation with a blogger?

No . Blogging can get personal but I don’t want to get THAT personal.

2. Do u want to have a sexual relationship with a blogger?


3.Thongs, no panties or bloomers?

I like panties.

4.Favorite singer only one please?

Right Now its KEM

5. Why do u like blogging?

It gives me an outlet for my frustrations with life

6. If u could change 1 thing about your mate what would it be?

If I could change one thing I would want him to be more romantic.

7. Is there a blogger u really dont care for to much?

Not really

8. What career would u really like to get into?

I would really like to get into Social Work

9. Do u have a friend whom mate u are attracted too. If so have u even want to act on temptation?

My husband has one friend who is FINE but that’s where it ends.

10. What sexually wont u do even if u were paid?

I’m sure there are more but for now I will say bestiality

11. They say anything can be brought. If you were/are in a serious financial bind and a fellow blogger, friend, supervisor would proposition u to sleep with them for one night and they would pay off all your debts& give u $100,000 would u do it? Part 2 of this question is your mate must watch this go down?

Is the propositioner FINE? Ok, ok I think I’d do it and after explaining to my man that we would be debt free and have money spare He would either be fine with it or I will be the only one out of Debt. LOL

Will asked

My one question is, What does your blog user name -- Msnhim -- mean? Please explain in explicit detail.

Msnhim (pronounced- Missing Him)

I had a really good friend at a time in my life when things weren’t so great and he was there to be the friend I needed at the time. We spent many hours talking about life and the day to day happenings and it felt good to have someone to talk to that was kind of going through the same thing….. Life started changing for both of us and everything changed. The friendship that I depended on was no more and hasn’t been the same since. We still keep in contact but it will never be what it once was there for I am MSNHIM.

Bajan Queen ASked

Since you are your parent's favorite child.....do you have a favorite amongst your children?!?!

I love all my children but I believe that everyone has a favorite. I would same its my baby cause she is the most like me and I think its hilarious

What is a typical day like in the life of Msnhim???

I live the life of your typical mother of 3. I have my day job and then I go home to " WORK".LOL

BK Asked

Can you cook?

Yes I can cook. do I like to cook? no not really.

What's your favorite dish?

My favorite To eat, shrimp Scampi. To cook is pasta.

Favorite book?

Has to be The Notebook. I cried when I read that book

Favorite blogger post (by you)?

My favorite blogger post by me would be "G-String Horror"

I still don’t know how I survived that night

Kayla Asked

1. Have you been doing any driving lately?

Sadly no but im hoping to get a new car by summer

2. What's your dream vacation?

Anything that envolves warm weather and lots of romance

3. If you weren't an Administrative Assistant, what would you be doing?

Something envolving children I love kids. I just dont always like them. LOL

4. Has the situation in the romance department improved for you?

Not Really but I keep hope alive. LOL

Cutie Cola Asked

1. What is the one thing (sexually) that you will never, ever, ever do??

2. What is the one thing (sexually) that you have always wanted to do but have never done due to inhibitions or just plain shyness??

Hmmmm Good question. I would say voyeurism . There something very erotic about the idea of someone watching.

So now you know just a little but more about me !

Friday, January 20, 2006 

Ask Me Anything!!!!!!

I just got back from taking the kids Iceskating and like Nicky said " I am no Dorthy Hamil"LOL. I am exhausted and I am getting together with Blogger buddies for drinks tonight. In order to make that happen I need a nap.

So I am going to open myself up to ya'll . I don't realy have anything to write about right now so .....

Ask me anything? Doesn't matter what it is. I will post all answers in the next few days.

Make them interesting question people, dont worry I can take it! Have a great weekend!

Edit { These are interesting, I'll be posting my answers soon}

Thursday, January 19, 2006 

Raising a "MAN"

Can a woman properly raise a “man”

I got into a conversation with a co-worker. We were discussing whether a woman can raise a boy to be a man on her own with no male figure in his life or Is the presence of a man intricate to a boy “becoming” a man.

I personally think it would be great if there were a male figure in a boy’s life but I don’t think it’s a necessity. I think if you are a strong women the is nothing you cant do including raising a boy on your own. I have met people that were solely raise by women and they turn out fine and I have met men the were raise with the father figure in there life ad they turned out horrible.

So my question for the day is

Do you think women can raise a boy to be a man? Why or Why not?

Tuesday, January 17, 2006 

How important is sex in a relationship?

There was an article in the paper about a few couples that were struggling with their sex lives. Some men wanted it more than the women {no surprise there} and some women wanted it more than their man, but through all of the daily work, home etc. to some sex just wasn’t a priority.

I have been at the place where everything in my life can become so stressful that I am not really interested in sex no matter how good it may be. When my mind is busy with bills, choosing the right school for my kids and stuff I have to do at work I cant focus on anything else, but I don’t think that my not being in “the mood” should be cause for a 2 hour discussion.

So my question is if everything else works in the relationship how important is the sex part to you?

Happy Tuesday! I hope everyone had a good weekend.

Friday, January 13, 2006 

The In-laws Part I

I told you I'd be back with rants on my in-laws so lets start with the youngest of the BITCHES OF EASTWICK. We will call her the Selfish bitch. Here we go…

I don't know how she can call herself a mother! Any chick can have children but it takes a real woman to call herself a mother. She drops her kids of to anyone who will have them and now She is giving her son to his paternal Aunt cause he’s too much to handle.

How bout this "WTF did you think would happen to the kid if you let him do whatever he wants with no restrictions. Kids need discipline dumb ass but that’s beside the point HE'S YOUR SON deal with his issues and really be his mother!!!!" Oh and your welcome for the many times I kept your daughter for weeks when she was only suppose to come over for the day, your welcome for the summer clothes and the winter coats I bought her, oh and My kids never needed any of the Christmas and birthday gifts you never got them.
I Just had to let that out.

To top it all off her man is a real asshole.
Any man that stays at home sleeping until 2pm while she is at work, then goes out and buys himself the best with her check and her and the kids look like shit is not a man. She lets this stupid ass manipulate her with shit like " one day me and you gonna have everything" UMMM HELLO How about what YA NEED for today !!!!!!

Ok, OK {grabbing ear lobes} Woosahhhhh!!!!!

Wednesday, January 11, 2006 

Romance, too much work?

I know that there are a lot of men that think romance is a waste of time but I was surprised to find that there are a lot of women out there that feel romance is corny or even a waste of time. WTF?

I don’t know about those women but I crave romance the way dieters crave cake. I want to be swept off my feet! I want the corny “mix tape” and the sappy love letters! I want the long walks through the park, the picnics and the long talks about life while watching the sunrise!!!! I want the impromptu weekend trips and the days off spent in bed. I want the text messages that say, “ I miss you” and the flowers sent to work just because!

Now I know this may sound like a lot but I’m not asking for this on a regular basis but it would be nice if they remembered that you should never stop courting you woman/man. If you do that you open that door for someone else to court your man/woman and then what will you have.

Please tell me if what I want is unreasonable…

Tuesday, January 10, 2006 

Breaks and friends

It seems that everyone is taking a break or shutting down their bloggs altogether. I’m tempted to follow suite. If all my blogger buddies shut down, Who will I read? Who will read my post? It makes me wonder if it’s even worth posting anymore but I still have a lot I need to say so I think for now I’ll keep posting. I plan to devote a lot of post to the family of witches I call my in-laws. LOL but for now ....

I was thinking about relationships in general and as a woman I have used the "lets just be friends" line many times but honestly can you just be friends with someone you have been intimate with? I guess if the sex was bad than maybe but what if the sex was great how do you go on as "just friends”?

Friday, January 06, 2006 

1st Meme of 2006

I seem to have stunned a few people with my last post ( although factual) I decided to lighten up a bit today.

An Alphabet meme

[A is for age:]
I’m 30 and loving it.

[B is for booze of choice]
Amaretto Sours – Hey when is the next trip to Fat Black?

[C is for career]
Administrative Assistant. Its ok for now

[D is for your dog's name:]
I don't have a dog,

[E is for essential items you use everyday:]
My Ipod mini – Cant make a move without my music

[F is for favorite song(s) at the moment:]
Unpredictable- Jamie Foxx

[G is for favorite games:]
Anyone for truth or dare… Just kidding

[H is for hometown:]

[I is for instruments you play:]
I used to play the recorder but that’s about it

[J is for jam or jelly you like:]
Strawberry Jam on wheat toast.

[K is for kids]
3. That's plenty for me thanks.

[L is for last kiss]
This morning when I dropped my kids at school

[M is for most admired trait:]
I’m very loyal

[N is for name of your crush:]
I take the 5th on this

[O is for overnight hospital stays:]
3 The birth of my kids

[P is for phobias:]
The Dentist

[Q is for quotes you like:]
“Missing someone gets easier everyday. Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other, it is one day closer to the next time you will”

[R is for biggest regret:]
Too many to list

[S is for sweets of your choice:]

[T is for time you wake up:]
6:40 am. On a good day 6:30am

[U is for underwear:]
I like stuff that’s comfortable

[V is for vegetables you love:]

[W is for worst habit:]
Eating when I am under stress

[X is for x-rays you've had:]
A few as a child… I was a little accident-prone.

[Y is for yummy food you make:]
I can make a pretty good cheesecake, right Nicky?

[Z is for zodiac sign:]
Taurus is symbolized by the Bull. You may be stubborn, but your grounded, steady demeanor makes you someone others can count on. You're also a sensualist who loves good food, physical affection, romance and material goods -- and only the best of everything.

I don’t know about the material goods but the rest is right.

Thursday, January 05, 2006 

Mother in law

I was over at Organized's spot and he was talking about meeting the parents and that lead me to this post.

I would like to take this time out to say a few words to my Mother-in-law…….

Ummmm….. You’re a bitch and I hate you……

That felt good.

I hate you cause you were a horrible mother to your son and you are even worse grandmother to his kids. If I had known this 13 years ago I probably would have left your son alone. You think that he owes you something? Bitch he don’t own you shit! What the fuck did you ever do for him or any of your other messed up children for that matter.

You should be thanking me. I’m the reason your son is now a man. I’m the reason his ass didn’t end up in jail like your other son. Yeah bitch me the chick you cant stand for no other reason than that you can never be me.

I don’t want you near my kids. You are cold and evil and you get enjoyment out of others misery. You taught your kids to be like that and so none of your children will ever be truly happy.

I’ll tell you this you may have pulled the wool over everyone else’s eyes with your bogus depression and anxiety attacks but Bitch you aint fool me. KARMA is a bitch and what you do comes back to you ten fold …..So save that shit for OPRAH cause I don’t believe shit you say…..

Thank you for you patience bloggers. LOL

Wednesday, January 04, 2006 

Body Image

So I am trying to amp myself up to loose some weight by April but there are some things that weight loss won't fix.

I think most people have something about them physically that they would change if they could. After looking at myself in the mirror this morning I realized there are just parts of my body that I would defiantly change.

My Nose--- I have been told many times that I have a big nose. It is kind of big I’m not going to lie.

My thighs--- I just want to get Lipo. My rest of my legs are pretty decent but the thighs need some “tweaking”

My Stomach--- After have kids its hard to get that flat stomach again. Not that my stomach was ever really flat but you know what I mean.

My Chin---- No matter how much weight I loose my chin always looks fat… Yeah I would defiantly get the fat sucked out of my chin

So lets pretend by some “ Miracle” a very reputable doctor is going to give you whatever cosmetic surgery you want. What would you have done?

Tuesday, January 03, 2006 

Welcome 2006 !!!!!!!!

New Year! New Look! New Attitude!

2006 came in pretty quietly for me but I am hoping to make major changes in my life.

To start I HAVE to (notice I said Have to) loose some weight. I wouldn’t classify myself as a “big girl” and most people would say I look fine but there is a deference between “fine” and FINNNNNNNE! I would like to be the latter. I know what your going to say but I need to feel comfortable in my own skin and right now I just don’t so I’ll be making the gym a regular part of my life.

I thought a lot about it and I have decided not to give out any more advice! Yeah you heard me!!!!! I love my friends dearly but I doubt they’ll be my friends much longer if I keep getting “ OPRAH” on them. My objective is going to be to just “listen” No Judgments.

Last but not least I am going to put in the “ alone time” I keep talking about. I know it won’t be easy but I am determined to make it work!

Hope you guys had a great new year!!!!!