I just want to know why...

With Valentine's day on the way it seems love is in the air... or is it?


"If you can't have the one you love, love the one you have"


What do you think..... can you be in a relationship when your not "in-love"? Is it a lie? Could you do it?

I need your help. The beginning of the year saw the departure of one of my favorite bloggers.. Nicky


She is crazy cool and I enjoyed her blogg so much that I have started to go through " Blogger withdrawl"



Symptoms


1. visiting her site daily when I know shes not there

2. Hopeing to see if she replys to anyones post , so at least I know shes alive

3. Sleepless night and sweates wondering " WHAT HAPPENED"



Ok maybe that last one is over the top but you see where I am going with this..... I need this blogg back so here is my plea...... BRING BACK YOUR BLOG!!!!



People if you feel the same can I get an Amen!!!!!!!!

Here are the Answers to your questions

MeCrazyMe Asked


1. Do you have a crush on any blogger you have met?

I really like all the bloggers that I have met but as far as a crush not yet


2. What is your best quality?

I would have to say my Loyalty. Once I consider you my friend I am going to have your back all the way.

3. Do you like to give advice or receive advice?

I like both. If I have been in the situation and I feel that maybe I call help I’ll try. As much as I don’t always want to hear it I welcome advice.

4. Was I missed at the blogger meetup being that I couldn't go?

Yes

5. If someone came to your door with three small children saying that a old high school friend had you down as next of kin to raise her children (she passed way) what would you do?

I would raise the kids. I have a soft spot for children and if the person felt that I was the right person to keep them I’d be honored.

6. What is your favorite number?

24 that’s the date I was born

7. What is the best compliment someone has ever gave you?

That Im a great mom…. Its doesn’t get better than that for me

8. Why am I not at this damn meet up?

I don’t know, you tell me.

Anonymous ASk
1. Would u ever have a sexual relation with a blogger?

No . Blogging can get personal but I don’t want to get THAT personal.

2. Do u want to have a sexual relationship with a blogger?

NO

3.Thongs, no panties or bloomers?

I like panties.

4.Favorite singer only one please?

Right Now its KEM

5. Why do u like blogging?

It gives me an outlet for my frustrations with life

6. If u could change 1 thing about your mate what would it be?

If I could change one thing I would want him to be more romantic.

7. Is there a blogger u really dont care for to much?

Not really

8. What career would u really like to get into?

I would really like to get into Social Work

9. Do u have a friend whom mate u are attracted too. If so have u even want to act on temptation?

My husband has one friend who is FINE but that’s where it ends.

10. What sexually wont u do even if u were paid?

I’m sure there are more but for now I will say bestiality

11. They say anything can be brought. If you were/are in a serious financial bind and a fellow blogger, friend, supervisor would proposition u to sleep with them for one night and they would pay off all your debts& give u $100,000 would u do it? Part 2 of this question is your mate must watch this go down?

Is the propositioner FINE? Ok, ok I think I’d do it and after explaining to my man that we would be debt free and have money spare He would either be fine with it or I will be the only one out of Debt. LOL



Will asked

My one question is, What does your blog user name -- Msnhim -- mean? Please explain in explicit detail.

Msnhim (pronounced- Missing Him)

I had a really good friend at a time in my life when things weren’t so great and he was there to be the friend I needed at the time. We spent many hours talking about life and the day to day happenings and it felt good to have someone to talk to that was kind of going through the same thing….. Life started changing for both of us and everything changed. The friendship that I depended on was no more and hasn’t been the same since. We still keep in contact but it will never be what it once was there for I am MSNHIM.



Bajan Queen ASked

Since you are your parent's favorite child.....do you have a favorite amongst your children?!?!

I love all my children but I believe that everyone has a favorite. I would same its my baby cause she is the most like me and I think its hilarious

What is a typical day like in the life of Msnhim???

I live the life of your typical mother of 3. I have my day job and then I go home to " WORK".LOL



BK Asked

Can you cook?

Yes I can cook. do I like to cook? no not really.

What's your favorite dish?

My favorite To eat, shrimp Scampi. To cook is pasta.

Favorite book?


Has to be The Notebook. I cried when I read that book

Favorite blogger post (by you)?

My favorite blogger post by me would be "G-String Horror"

I still don’t know how I survived that night

Kayla Asked
Hmmmm Good question. I would say voyeurism . There something very erotic about the idea of someone watching.


So now you know just a little but more about me !

I just got back from taking the kids Iceskating and like Nicky said " I am no Dorthy Hamil"LOL. I am exhausted and I am getting together with Blogger buddies for drinks tonight. In order to make that happen I need a nap.


So I am going to open myself up to ya'll . I don't realy have anything to write about right now so .....


Ask me anything? Doesn't matter what it is. I will post all answers in the next few days.


Make them interesting question people, dont worry I can take it! Have a great weekend!



Edit { These are interesting, I'll be posting my answers soon}

There was an article in the paper about a few couples that were struggling with their sex lives. Some men wanted it more than the women {no surprise there} and some women wanted it more than their man, but through all of the daily work, home etc. to some sex just wasn’t a priority.

I have been at the place where everything in my life can become so stressful that I am not really interested in sex no matter how good it may be. When my mind is busy with bills, choosing the right school for my kids and stuff I have to do at work I cant focus on anything else, but I don’t think that my not being in “the mood” should be cause for a 2 hour discussion.




So my question is if everything else works in the relationship how important is the sex part to you?


Happy Tuesday! I hope everyone had a good weekend.

I know that there are a lot of men that think romance is a waste of time but I was surprised to find that there are a lot of women out there that feel romance is corny or even a waste of time. WTF?


I don’t know about those women but I crave romance the way dieters crave cake. I want to be swept off my feet! I want the corny “mix tape” and the sappy love letters! I want the long walks through the park, the picnics and the long talks about life while watching the sunrise!!!! I want the impromptu weekend trips and the days off spent in bed. I want the text messages that say, “ I miss you” and the flowers sent to work just because!



Now I know this may sound like a lot but I’m not asking for this on a regular basis but it would be nice if they remembered that you should never stop courting you woman/man. If you do that you open that door for someone else to court your man/woman and then what will you have.




Please tell me if what I want is unreasonable…

It seems that everyone is taking a break or shutting down their bloggs altogether. I’m tempted to follow suite. If all my blogger buddies shut down, Who will I read? Who will read my post? It makes me wonder if it’s even worth posting anymore but I still have a lot I need to say so I think for now I’ll keep posting. I plan to devote a lot of post to the family of witches I call my in-laws. LOL but for now ....

I was thinking about relationships in general and as a woman I have used the "lets just be friends" line many times but honestly can you just be friends with someone you have been intimate with? I guess if the sex was bad than maybe but what if the sex was great how do you go on as "just friends”?

I seem to have stunned a few people with my last post ( although factual) I decided to lighten up a bit today.


An Alphabet meme


[A is for age:]
I’m 30 and loving it.

[B is for booze of choice]
Amaretto Sours – Hey when is the next trip to Fat Black?

[C is for career]
Administrative Assistant. Its ok for now

[D is for your dog's name:]
I don't have a dog,

[E is for essential items you use everyday:]
My Ipod mini – Cant make a move without my music

[F is for favorite song(s) at the moment:]
Unpredictable- Jamie Foxx

[G is for favorite games:]
Anyone for truth or dare… Just kidding

[H is for hometown:]
NYC

[I is for instruments you play:]
I used to play the recorder but that’s about it

[J is for jam or jelly you like:]
Strawberry Jam on wheat toast.

[K is for kids]
3. That's plenty for me thanks.

[L is for last kiss]
This morning when I dropped my kids at school

[M is for most admired trait:]
I’m very loyal

[N is for name of your crush:]
I take the 5th on this

[O is for overnight hospital stays:]
3 The birth of my kids

[P is for phobias:]
The Dentist

[Q is for quotes you like:]
“Missing someone gets easier everyday. Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other, it is one day closer to the next time you will”

[R is for biggest regret:]
Too many to list

[S is for sweets of your choice:]
Cheesecake

[T is for time you wake up:]
6:40 am. On a good day 6:30am

[U is for underwear:]
I like stuff that’s comfortable

[V is for vegetables you love:]
Broccoli

[W is for worst habit:]
Eating when I am under stress

[X is for x-rays you've had:]
A few as a child… I was a little accident-prone.

[Y is for yummy food you make:]
I can make a pretty good cheesecake, right Nicky?

[Z is for zodiac sign:]
Taurus is symbolized by the Bull. You may be stubborn, but your grounded, steady demeanor makes you someone others can count on. You're also a sensualist who loves good food, physical affection, romance and material goods -- and only the best of everything.

I don’t know about the material goods but the rest is right.

I was over at Organized's spot and he was talking about meeting the parents and that lead me to this post.

So I am trying to amp myself up to loose some weight by April but there are some things that weight loss won't fix.

I think most people have something about them physically that they would change if they could. After looking at myself in the mirror this morning I realized there are just parts of my body that I would defiantly change.

My Nose--- I have been told many times that I have a big nose. It is kind of big I’m not going to lie.

My thighs--- I just want to get Lipo. My rest of my legs are pretty decent but the thighs need some “tweaking”

My Stomach--- After have kids its hard to get that flat stomach again. Not that my stomach was ever really flat but you know what I mean.


My Chin---- No matter how much weight I loose my chin always looks fat… Yeah I would defiantly get the fat sucked out of my chin


So lets pretend by some “ Miracle” a very reputable doctor is going to give you whatever cosmetic surgery you want. What would you have done?

New Year! New Look! New Attitude!


2006 came in pretty quietly for me but I am hoping to make major changes in my life.

To start I HAVE to (notice I said Have to) loose some weight. I wouldn’t classify myself as a “big girl” and most people would say I look fine but there is a deference between “fine” and FINNNNNNNE! I would like to be the latter. I know what your going to say but I need to feel comfortable in my own skin and right now I just don’t so I’ll be making the gym a regular part of my life.

I thought a lot about it and I have decided not to give out any more advice! Yeah you heard me!!!!! I love my friends dearly but I doubt they’ll be my friends much longer if I keep getting “ OPRAH” on them. My objective is going to be to just “listen” No Judgments.

Last but not least I am going to put in the “ alone time” I keep talking about. I know it won’t be easy but I am determined to make it work!


Hope you guys had a great new year!!!!!